Raising a child is not an easy job but raising a well-behaved child is the toughest. However, there is one thing that will motivate you to put all your efforts in raising your child. That is, that you have to put effort in the starting years of your child. And you will get the fruit after that. On the other hand if you don’t put all tpur efforts in the beginning you will have to face the consequences for your whole life.
Before giving my tips, I would like to ask you what do you think is the reason that some people have very well mannered children? Everyone might have different experiences but there are some common things also.
Setting punishment for them? Rewarding them with candies, for behaving good? Etc
1. Set clear expectations:
From many researches, it has been proved that stating your expectations in front of your child helps them be disciplined. When you tell them what you expect out of them, even when they are toddlers. They start expecting the same things from their ownselves.
“When you make your expectations clear from the time your children are toddlers, they internalize those expectations and begin to expect the same thing from themselves,” Sharon K. Hall, Ph.D., author of Raising Kids in the 21st Century.
It seems daunting but the early you start training your child, the easier it becomes for him to meet your expectations. Children learn from you, if you want them to wash hands before eating start washing hands in front of them before eating.
2. Help them attain problem solving:
When a child asks their parents about something, parents should answer him, but not solve the problem practically. For example if your child is stuck at 2 + 5 is equal to what? It’s your job to teach him how to add them together rather than telling them 7. It doesn’t matter how many times do they ask don’t solve their problem by telling them the answer. Once they learn to solve the problem and think out of the box, you will get the fruit of your patience.
Try to put them in situations where they have to to find the solution. For example ask them to open the lock. To choose a book for them. To choose your favourite pyjamas. All these situations will help them deal with many more. Even if they chose wrong, they will learn from it which is very important for their development.
3. Help them be more empathetic:
“Children are born believing that the world revolves around them,” Steven E. Curtis, Ph.D., author of Understanding Your Child’s Puzzling Behavior. “
As a parent it is your job to make and realise them that everybody is equally important. The sooner they understand this, the less annoying and hurtful will they become. For example if your child is not giving his food to his sister, ask him how would you feel if your sister won’t give you her food?
For making them more empathetic you should start praising their little acts of kindness.
Making your child well behaved or well- mannered isn’t a one night process. It will take time. Notice the changes in your children. Appreciate little positive changes in them. Continue practicing these tips. And sooner or later you will have your results.
But again I believe moms have stronger instincts for their children than anyone. Follow your instincts and you might have a list of your tips that worked for you.
Moms can do it 